Which way to Look

“And I know that you’re a sucker
for anything acoustic,
and when I say ‘lets keep in touch’
I really mean ‘I wish that you’d grow up’” –Mix Tape, Brand New

I find the whole structure of teen relationships an interesting thing. The whole idea of teen relationships is totally juxtaposed to adult relationships (and society’s way of life in general) which makes them get frowned upon by most of the adult community. The most important factor that sets them so much apart is the basic goal. The basic goal of adult relationships to find a partner or soul mate; while really, the basic goal of teen relationships is just fun.

And the interesting thing is, all teens know this. We know when we enter into relationships at our age that we’re not picking life partners (though that has happened before) and that’s really what adds the spice to it I think. The motto of teen relationships is basically “Live while you can” because that’s pretty much the mindset (although it does take time to admit this to yourself and to each other lol)

Adults crave that spice that teen relationships have. How many times have you heard married couples complaining that they “don’t act the same as when they were young”? Its because back then the goal was different. Back then there was nothing to lose and everything to gain.

The goal didn’t involve the future, it involved the present.

A lot of people have been falling ‘in like’ of late, and when you start looking at these relationships like ive just explained; you start to wonder if its futile. But then again, when you’re involved, perspectives change. I think now, that the structure of teen relationships is truly a much better format then adults relationships (the only problem is the shortness of teen relationships, but this is just due to our innate need to experience as much as we can)

Think of it this way, the key to a relationship is looking in the present and not the future (and also; looking at the person and not everyone around them)

Then again, im no expert on the subject lol; so I’ll shut my big mouth now.

My Stupid Mouth

“Oh, another social casualty. Score one more for me. How could I forget? Momma said ‘think before speaking!’ No filter in my head; oh what’s a boy to do? I guess he’d better find one…soon…” --My Stupid Mouth, John Mayer

Everyone has times where they want to say something to somebody, something that they know will hurt everyone involved, but you get so mad you feel you want to say it anyway. And you run scenarios through your head where you say it with more melodrama then an American soapie then turn and leave. But you don’t imagine the aftermath; you don’t imagine what the next day would be like, or the next week. All you’re focused on is getting that anger off your chest and onto someone else’s.

Anger makes you see and do stupid things, its just its nature. I find it interesting that the need to cause somebody pain overrides all other trains of thought so easily. It truly rules you, and everyone does it in their lives. It takes stepping back to see how futile it is (but then again, what if by looking at it like that we are really just making a worse decision?) and when that happens, most of the time you think “oh yeah, lucky I didn’t do that! How stupid I would have seemed, how much pain I would have caused; and it all would have all been for nothing!” but every now and again its different.

Sometimes after looking back you still want to say it. You want to say it, not because you want to cause pain, but because you want others to see your pain. You want to say “look at what ive suffered! Doesn’t that mean anything?!” but that very act causes pain, and contradicts your original goal.

But thinking is one thing, actually doing it is different. You see your opportunity, and you look at the person who’s caused the anger, and you cant do it. No matter how much you would vent you spleen on that person, it wouldn’t help you. And that doesn’t feel good, it actually feels worse. It’s like getting something sharp caught in your throat and swallowing it instead of coughing it up.

Some wounds don’t heal. Some do. But either way, the person was cut in the first place. That’s what matters.